November 1, 2016
REMEDY FOR LOW SELF-ESTEEM
Linda M. Penn
“I can’t do that.” “I’m no good at that.” “I’ll never pass that test.” Are these statements you have heard from your children?
We adults have times when we feel insecure, but hopefully, we can deal positively with these anxieties. So, how can we help the kids to grow and mature with positive thinking about themselves?
I might rock your world when I say this, but here goes: EVERY KID IS UNIQUE AND SPECIAL, BUT WE DON’T NEED TO TELL THEM THAT TEN TIMES A DAY! AND, EVERY KID DOESN’T NEED A PARTICIPATION TROPHY.
Give sincere compliments cautiously so the children feel proud of themselves. Hearing “you’re awesome, you did a great job” when you and the children know they could have done better only leads to low self-esteem. (Kids are no dummies. They realize when they are getting undeserving praise.)
Praising a child’sEFFORTS, rather than RESULTS,builds self-esteem. Let the kids know you love them unconditionally whether they “make the team or not.”
In my search of “build self-esteem in children,” I found several websites with helpful ideas for parents and teachers.
Have a wonderful Thanksgiving holiday. Come back the first week in December for the next Blog: “THE PERFECT GIFT”
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